Growing Up Music: Jill Scott “Golden”

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Jill Scott GoldenI am not old. In fact, I will never be old. That’s just how I think. However, I do realize that I’m not as young as I used to be. I think about things, people, and relationships a lot different now than I did years ago.When Jill Scott, Golden came out I was working full-time at a job I liked, but had no intention of advancing in.

I worked for the weekends when I spent my day prettying and prepping myself to go out in the evening with people (only a handful of whom I actually liked) to dance and eat and drink, and come home to sleep to do it all over again. I spend tons of time doing what other people thought I should do: I worked where they thought I should, I wore my hair the way they thought looked good, heck I even bought the car someone else picked out for me.


I was young. I was easily swayed and was doing things just because it was what all my peers were doing. My life was a pointless blur.


Now, through a combination of family and seeing the result of the wasted effort and time placed into half-baked relationships, I have a wholly different perspective on what is important.


I’m not bashful about telling people “No, I don’t want to” go here, or do this. Life goes quickly. Time is fleeting. And I, for one, don’t have any extra time to spend doing things that I don’t want to with people that I don’t want to be around–and I’m not shy to let others know. “I’m taking my freedom, pulling it off the shelf, putting it on a chain, wear it on my neck” for everyone to see.


Spending time and energy with people who really don’t care about you is a silly way to live. I love my family–the family I built of the people who I chose to be in my life and who chose me to be in theirs. And with them I enjoy myself.


I spend my time working a job I like, with a destiny and purpose in mind. You spend about 40 hours per week at a job if you work full-time. How tragically depressing to work somewhere you hate, for hours and hours on end with no goal in mind. No, making it from one weekend to the next is no longer good enough. I now intend for my love of life to “take me far”.


In the end I realize that as I age my life is a sum of memories. I’ve already collected enough to know which type create beautiful, lovely experience; I can look back on where I was, who I was with, and what I was doing when made them. Usually those positive memories were made around people that stuck with me through thick and thin, or just by my darn self (I am, after all, my own best friend). And I was doing something I loved, or was trying something new, or found myself someplace amazing. I wasn’t in a club. I wasn’t smiling at some girl I really didn’t like, or politely dancing with a guy I didn’t want to spend time with.


No, life is too short for that. I’d rather be “livin’ my life like it’s golden, golden.”



Be sure to check out another article in the Growing Up Music series: “One Week” by the Barenaked Ladies. Do you have a song that was given new meaning as you grew up? If so, tell us about it below! Or even better, submit a piece to the series yourself! 

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  • Gabby O’Brien

    I love empowering female artists. This was a great post, loved the music video!

    • Mrs. Mashed Up

      Thanks! Me too!!

  • loveforlacquer

    Her music is amazing!

  • Elizabeth

    Sounds like a fabulous artist that I should check out. I haven’t heard of her before, but I mainly listen to Christian music when the kids are with me (which is almost always).

    • Mrs. Mashed Up

      You’d probably like some of her stuff. She is contemporary, but her music isn’t sex, drugs, and foolishness. Most of it is along these lines, with really great messages.

  • Activities Children

    I have to listen to her music. I love songs that make you think.

  • Erica Brooks

    Love Jill Scott’s music. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and are putting your energy in to the important things in life. You’re right spending time and energy with people who really don’t care about you is a silly way to live.

    • Mrs. Mashed Up

      Thanks. It’s taken a while and lots of headaches and heartbreaks to get to this place.

  • Ben Butler

    Great post. Growing up doesn’t mean getting boring or stuffy. It means seeing the world around you and the things in that world for what they are – both the good and the bad.

  • Nolie

    Great post. And old is just a word. It is all about how young you feel.

  • Patranila

    Love Jill. Golden is on my inspiration playlist.

  • FamiGami

    I love the Barenaked Ladies…. as for this song, I’m not familiar with it at all. You’re right that you have to live for yourself, not for others. Don’t be fake, be true to yourself and do what makes YOU happy.

  • Rebecca Swenor

    This is an awesome post so kudos to you. Life is all about memories and why waste them memories on things you dislike. I totally agree. Thanks for sharing. :)

  • Ogiro1

    We sure do gain wisdom with age don’t we!? Glad you figured it out and you are doing what makes YOU happy! Life is too short!

  • Samantha Angell

    I really enjoyed this post. Your comment that as you age, you realize you have a collection of memories really speaks to me. Thanks for sharing!

  • Mary Jane Tauyan Fitzsimmons

    interesting post just like me and my husband.we are a couple and aging too but we never ever forget to have fun like teenagers because that helps you to get your freedom and be you the whole time

  • Marielle Altenor

    By far one of my favorite song by Jill Scott simply because of the lyrics!

    • Mrs. Mashed Up

      Me too!!

  • Melissa Smith

    I love this song! & I love your way of thinking that you’ll never be old. :-)

  • Paula – Buenos Aires

    I sometimes forget my age as I still enjoy most of the same things. ;) Loved teh first paragraph. Totally quotable.

  • Paulina Dombrowski

    Great post! Always good to remind yourself that growing up doesn’t have to make you boring.

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  • Kung Phoo

    Very nice post.. my wife and i go out without the kids.. we need grown up time.

  • Kori

    You’re only as old as you feel to be perfectly honest… or when, in doubt, act your shoe size ;) In that case, I’ll always be 7 at heart.

  • Lavende L.

    Lovely! Great reminder that we’ve got a lot of juice in us if we’re prepared to use it!

  • gRaSyAh

    hmmm.. i’m child of the 90s so the music i love are from that era too! i hate to admit also that I am that OLD haha

  • Meeks

    This is my song! I still play it everyday when I need a little inspiration. My favorite music is from 40s until 90s after that I don’t listen too.

  • ElizOF

    I love Jill Scott and her first album totally rocked my world. Remember: Who Is Jill Scott? This is good too

  • mrsloisannjones

    For years my husband and I have been asking each other if we are grown up yet. I think it’s because we enjoy having fun and we try to stay young-minded.

  • yonawilliams

    I remember that song…it’s so upbeat. I don’t think I will ever considered myself’s all a state of mind and having a positive, youthful attitude helps!

  • Sojourner Walker

    Good for you. It’s really hard sometimes to say no, but that word can be so liberating. I love, love Jill Scott. Golden is a great anthem.

  • Maggie King

    You are on,y as old as you feel right?

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