3 annoying breastfeeding questions

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Annoying breastfeeding questionsHappy World Breastfeeding Week! In honor of this week that is meant to help improve the health of mother and child, I thought I’d do something for my mental health by preemptively answering three annoying “breastfeeding  questions” I’ve been asked (and am tired of answering).

    How long are you going to breastfeed? The CDC says “The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that breastfeeding continue for at least 12 months, and thereafter for as long as mother and baby desire. The World Health Organization recommends continued breastfeeding up to 2 years of age or beyond.” So I will continue to breastfeed Baby Mash until he self-weans. Why? Because I want the best for Baby Mash, and the longer I breastfeed him, the longer he will benefit nutritionally and immunologically. Also, I want him to be smart; breastfeeding beyond the age of 1 has been linked in studies to higher IQ and academic achievement.     Don’t you feel weird breastfeeding an older baby? Before I started breastfeeding, I thought that once Baby Mash sprouted teeth that would be it, no more breastfeeding. But the truth is, now that we started, I couldn’t imagine denying him. I’ll be honest, now that he is older, sometimes I tell him to wait a minute while I do something (you know, mommies have to pee too). However, I have something that he wants, and that’s good for him. Why would I deny him? And no, the teeth don’t hurt. And that fact that breastfeeding a child over one seems so “abnormal” here in a America is just a symptom of a society molded by interested parties to make people think breastfeeding (a) in public and (b) for a longer period of time, is abnormal. In India 95% of newborns are breastfed, and 77% of that number are reportedly still breastfed at 21 to 23 months. Baby Mash and I would fit in swimmingly there.     Speaking of breastfeeding in public–yuck! You don’t do that, do you? Well, do you eat when you get hungry and happen to be out of the house? Yes? Well so does Baby Mash. Do you eat in the hot car, the toilet stall, or behind a bush? Neither does he. I do wholehearted agree with modesty–there is a time and place for everything. When he was younger, I could cover Baby Mash with no problem. Now, he flings the cover off. He’s hot and nosey. And when people who don’t have kids, or never breastfed a spirited mobile baby insist I should be able to put a cover over his head, I insist that they should instead put it over their own. world breastfeeding 2014 and breastfeeding questionsI try to be as obscure as possible, both for the sake of modesty, and so Baby Mash, who is uber nosey, will focus on eating. But sometimes, there is no private room, he doesn’t want solid food, and he can’t be distracted into forgetting that his little tummy is empty, and I have no choice. And given no choice, I feed my son. Comparisons of breastfeeding in public to vomiting and using the bathroom in public a ludicrous, and not even worth responding too. And fortunately, I don’t have to respond to that logic or justify myself to anyone, because the law is on my side. And since I don’t care about random people more than Baby Mash, and I attempt to be as modest as a given situation will allow, I feel my son wherever I am.     I know that I’ll be asked one of these questions again. And with a smile, even if it is one born from annoyment, I’ll answer it. Why? Because I want to help normalize breastfeeding. And if answering the same questions over and over will help, then so be it.

What are some breastfeeding questions you hear often?

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  • https://plus.google.com/u/0/107530863331446582610/posts/p/ Cindy McDowall

    BFing in public was one of the hardest things for me at first and now it is just like yea don’t care little bean is hungry.

  • Gina

    I personally I was unable to breastfeed my daughter. I don’t mind mothers that breastfeed in public. Like you said, babies need to eat. I just prefer they are discreet. there is no need to flash your breast for all to see.

    • http://thatsmashedup.com Mrs. Mashed Up

      I agree! I try to be discreet and respectful of others. :-)

  • Michelle F.

    I can’t believe people can go up to a mother and ask these questions. I breastfeed but wish I could have done it longer.

  • http://www.stayingclosetohome.com/ Close To Home

    I had three kids and I BFed each of them. I tried to do it as discreet as i could though

  • FamiGami

    I’ll have you know that the majority of people with issues about breastfeeding are in fact women. Men don’t sexualize breasts – the media and censorship do. Breasts are not a sexual organ – they aren’t necessary for reproduction. Breastfeeding is nothing to be ashamed of and those that have a problem with it, frankly, have a problem with their own humanity.

  • Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell

    I’m a really modest person so I always went into another room or went to the car and had a blanket over me. I don’t have a problem with other people being more out in the open though. It’s just my modesty.

    • http://thatsmashedup.com Mrs. Mashed Up

      Myself also. I have friends who are very open about it. It doesn’t bother me. I still also try to be as discreet as a situation allows. :-)

  • Chrissy Mazzocchi

    I never breast fed my babies but interesting info!

  • mail4rosey

    I never ask breastfeeding questions to others. I breastfed all four of my babies. :) That being said, my DIL, breastfeeds in public without a cover We have definitely gotten some ‘looks’ or ‘careful eye avoidance’ from people when we’re out together and baby girl gets hungry, lol

  • Rebecca Swenor

    I have to mention a story my sister told me after she stopped breastfeeding her youngest and last child. He was talking at the time she stopped and he seen her in the shower on day. He told her she need to go docs because something was wrong with her boobs. You know how are bodies change when there is no more milk in them.lol It was funny when she told me. Breastfeeding is addicting for a mother and it is hard to wean the baby because of the connection you have with your child. I had stopped breasting when my son was 8 months but it was because of being in the Army reserves. It should be up to the mother when she stops.

    • http://thatsmashedup.com Mrs. Mashed Up

      LOL–that’s too funny! I definitely think there is something chemical going on with the connection between mother and child. Whenever Baby Mash says he is ready to stop, I’ll be ready too. ;-)

  • TweenselMom

    I think being discreet when breastfeeding can always be done but it’s always up to the mom. If she’s comfortable where she is and how she does it, even with people looking in the public, then heck to the onlookers. As long as she doesn’t create commotion when too much people are looking and causing traffic, I think? :-)

  • http://tauyanm.com/ Mary Jane Tauyan Fitzsimmons

    i dont really have a problem with other people breast feeding in public. its there thing and not mine so no prob with that.

  • http://thatsmashedup.com Mrs. Mashed Up

    LOL–be strong! Do what’s best for you and your little one!

  • http://thatsmashedup.com Mrs. Mashed Up

    It was very difficult for me too!

  • http://thatsmashedup.com Mrs. Mashed Up

    I agree, it’s the oddest balance in society isn’t it?

  • http://thatsmashedup.com Mrs. Mashed Up

    I can imagine!! I hate all this breast vs. bottle bickering! As long as baby is fed and happy :-)

  • http://thatsmashedup.com Mrs. Mashed Up

    LOL, I have not been asked if I tried it…. Oh my!

  • Jaime Huff

    Well…. I never breastfed because my body didn’t produce any milk. I was actually screamed at by the La Leche League gangsters that my child would be super unhealthy and all the other stuff (for the record, she is extremely healthy and has never been really sick except since her head injury) and I about hauled off and punched their Grand Master. I always get the ridiculous nonsense about whether or not I tried hard enough *rolls eyes and tells them all to kick rocks and worry about their own children and homes that are out of control*

  • TheNewClassy

    I love your replies to the overly asked questions! You go girl! I breast fed my daughter, if not for all the nutrition and health benefits, then for the fact that you save TONS on formula!

  • http://kathrivera.com/ Kath Rivera

    Yes question number 3 is annoying. That’s why some mother’s choose to put their breastmilk on feeding bottles when going in public. I’m glad that malls here in our country have breastfeeding lounge.

  • http://www.maggiestruth.com Maggie King

    I’ve never breast feed personally but I don’t see the problem with breast feeding in public! The baby has to eat!

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