mash: parenting / entertainment
I have a friend who would make an amazing mother. And her husband? He’d be an amazing father. However, like 1.5 million couples in the US, infertility has become a barrier to their dream of having a biological child. However, thanks to the option of adoption, it isn’t a barrier to having the family that they want. They have a warm, loving environment that some child will be blessed to call home. Over 130,000 children are adopted in the US every year.
So I dedicate this list of movies to my friend, the movie nut, whose heart is big enough to be open to the possibility of adoption.
Meet The Robinsons Keep Moving Forward: that is the mantra that was repeated over and over in this movie. Lewis is a unique little boy, full of wonderment and potential. It was always there–it just took the right family to see it. He pushed through heartbreak and keep positive when the chips weren’t in his favor. In the end he ended up with the perfect people in his life. My take away from this movie: No matter what obstacles might be throw at you early on in life, if you just “keep moving forward” you’ll find that you can get much further than you thought possible.
Despicable Me Gru did not seem like the fatherly type when the movie started. I mean, how could you be mean to cute kids selling cookies for goodness sakes? Even the main villain, Vector, bought some cookies. Even Gru himself didn’t didn’t think he was parent material. How far away from the truth he was–he was exactly the type of father these girls needed. Even Dr. Nefario turned into a decent grandfather figure. Sometimes it is the most unexpected people who can make great parents, caregivers, and even mentors. My take away from this movie: There are kids out there that need love and support–and to them, even when I might think I’m not good enough, I am more than enough.
Dennis the Menace I remember hating Dennis the Menace when I was little. I didn’t think he was funny, I thought he was bad. And to me, even back then, “bad” was not an endearing quality. Now that I have been working with kids in a variety of settings I can say, without any back peddling, some kids are just plain difficult. And some kids who have been through a world of experiences before they ended up in the system can have some serious behavioral issues. And the truth is, after what some of them have gone through, anyone would have issues. Does that make them unlovable? Unsalvageable? Unworthy of love? That is so far from it. The Dennises of the world are often the ones who feel the most, and are crying out for help, support, and love. My take away from this movie: Love can look past challenges to find what is worthy.
Annie My favorite lines in my favorite song of this movie show the multilayers of this classic musical. “Dumb dog, why are you following me? I ain’t got a crumb dog, so how about letting me be?” Despite having little to nothing, and a gruff exterior, Annie took in a stray dog that saw her as the caring, vulnerable, loving little girl that she was. And later when Daddy Warbucks took her in, that pervious act of love expanded to take that dog from the streets to a mansion. It was Annie in the movie that taught that you don’t have to be a millionaire to share what you have with others, or make a home for someone. And it was the dog that taught me to look past the tough exterior. The result of those two acts of kindness? Two deserving souls got a second chance at a loving home. My take away from this movie: Look past the outside and to who someone really is, and remember that when you do good for one person, you empower them to do good for others.
These are just four movies that touched on the idea of adoption that taught life lessons. What movies or shows do you like that involve adoption, and do they teach any lessons?